Sunday 4 September 2011

Admit you are not perfect

Sometimes, it really amazes me how we never had a real "conversation". Yes, we speak, and we hear, but we don't listen, do we?
Plain as it seems, every single sentence of yours is a dogmatic statement, a command, an order, no less.

Fundamentally, "logic" means different things to us.
In my eyes, logic is the train of thought that leads to a valid and sound conclusion, be it in agreement with my words or otherwise.

For you, logic is the means to lead others to agreement with your words, be it sound and valid or otherwise.

Maturity, common sense, interpersonal relations, you speak of them as if you have seen it all. Have you?
You proudly proclaim that you will NEVER apologise, much less say sorry, to your family members.
You commit the exact same mistakes, stupidity and fallacies you think you understood and warned us against.
You embrace illogic when it favours you, rejects sound logic when it goes against you, and simply dismiss as "alogic" when you.
You cling on to your outdated mindset and way of life, expecting us to follow suit and survive in this modern society.
You hold double standards and double personalities between friends and family, but claim you never lie and hates liars.
Your pet phrase is "Shut up, be quiet and listen to me", but you do the exact opposite.
Spare me the pain from typing everything out, because it will take more than 10 years.
I really don't see how society can see someone like you as more mature, more common-sensical, more respectable, than even me.


Unconditional love and care. Is that not the entire meaning of parenthood?
To truly love from the depths of the heart, to truly care without intention of reciprocacy.
Yet, albeit masked and subtle, your actions of "love and care" goes nothing beyond the superficial.
Concealed within each action lies the agenda of making us "feel" your love,
and when your mood turns bad or situations seem unfavorable, you simply cut these off, just like that.
Says a lot about you, really.

Great philosophers of late left behind words of wisdom, but I seriously doubt that would come up with the same if he met anyone like you.
Confucius speaks of Filial Piety, of the natural Hierarchy of Life.
Yet, how can we give back when we never received? How can we accept and respect when the logic is not sane, less say consolidated?
Laozi speaks of natural balance and equilibration, of reciprocity.
Yet, is it then right to bask in apathy in face of evil? Is it then right to reciprocate evil with evil?
Your very existence warp ancient wisdom, you win.

In spite of everything, I can't say you didn't do anything beneficial to my life.
People around me see me as mature, logical, insightful, friendly.
Admittedly, I have to give much credit to you for this, for you provided with the best training for these traits.
Given a perfect counter-example, I had to mature fast enough to prevent myself from following its footsteps.
Handling faulty logic everyday, I had no choice but to enforce logical thinking to keep myself sane.
Having witnessed how dark and evil the world can be, I has forced to look at things beyond their many layers.
Knowing how people can be so superficial towards others, I have learnt to trust and be true towards my friends.
Faced with a dichotomy between learning or turning into you,  what training can be more effective than this?

If there is one advice of mine you might heed, though I know you wouldn't, it would be my belief:
"Admit you are not perfect".

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