NS itself doesn't change a person, new experiences do, new people do, new events do...
Its incredible how I've seen first hand, how NS can change someone, how it could've even changed me if I've let it. Conveniences smoking can bring, entertainment from clubbing, "guys' discussions" on girls... Almost all innocence is lost in army, from all but the most determined and persistent...
Thing is, the same can be said for any other part of our lives. From how we learnt to "refer to friends" for our homework or sneak a nap during lectures, all those habits that be picked up "for convenience's sake", changing us be it for the better or for worse.
If anything, it is Time, which changes a person. To resist change is futile, and to deny it, similarly so. Yet, there might be one true self, a single essence within one that we believe will remain unfazed by the challenges of time. Only upon finding this uniqueness can we say that we truly understand someone.
This "self" does not reveal itself easily to the eyes of others, or even the bearer itself. That is why human relationships needs time, to find that "something" that is true to the person, to verify that your first instinct is correct and not just a passing phase in the cycle of change.
What is your true self?
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